1. Make a choice (husband & wife) on your discipline method. What actions do we disciple for?
2. Be consistent.
We really focus our parenting efforts on first time obedience: http://childwisechat.wordpress.com/2009/04/12/first-time-obedience/
When they are young, under 2, we redirect: http://www.babyhearing.org/LanguageLearning/PositiveParent/redirecting.asp
Also, I believe most children are really just "testing the boundaries" - so establish good boundary lines and discipline every time they go outside the acceptable boundary. To find out more, a good read is: http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Kids-Dr-Henry-Cloud/dp/0310200350
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
The First Haircut
Okay, here's some advice after seeing Kai's haircut today. Mac did much better than him at sitting still - so it definitely depends on the personality of your child. So::: do a practice run. Set up the space how you want (him sitting in a chair by himself or someone holding him) and (cape or no cape). Then (without scissors) use the comb and water and your fingers to play with his hair in the same method you will to cut it. See how he reacts, then make any adjustments to the environment to help him.
Mac sat in the chair by herself, with the cape on, and didn't move until Brandy was done cutting her hair. She was about 1.
Kai sat in my lap, crying, wiggling, pulling at his cape, shaking his head, and screaming while Brandy cut his hair. He finally calmed down when I started singing to him and freed his hands from under the cape. He was about 1.
If you're child is like Kai, I highly recommend a professional cutting the hair so you can hold you child - and they can be in charge of the scissors.
Mac sat in the chair by herself, with the cape on, and didn't move until Brandy was done cutting her hair. She was about 1.
Kai sat in my lap, crying, wiggling, pulling at his cape, shaking his head, and screaming while Brandy cut his hair. He finally calmed down when I started singing to him and freed his hands from under the cape. He was about 1.
If you're child is like Kai, I highly recommend a professional cutting the hair so you can hold you child - and they can be in charge of the scissors.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Crying from 0 to 3 Months
"neh" sound it means their hungry
"owh" means thier sleepy
"heh" means discomfort...thats when your check if thier hot or cold or if they need their diaper changed maybe your holding them wrong or their car seat straps are too tight etc...
"eh" means they have to burp
"owh" means thier sleepy
"heh" means discomfort...thats when your check if thier hot or cold or if they need their diaper changed maybe your holding them wrong or their car seat straps are too tight etc...
"eh" means they have to burp
Friday, October 31, 2008
Raising Great Kids Workbook for Parents of Preschoolers Introduction
The Value of Love.
Love God and love others.
The Value of Truth.
Parents are dispensers of truth and reality sometimes through direct teaching, sometimes through discipline, and sometimes by getting out of the way and letting consequences do the instructing.
The Role of Character.
As a parent you need to be much more concerned about what kind of tree (good or bad) your child is becoming than about any particular fruit you might see on a single day.
An Understanding of Sin, Immaturity, and the Image of God.
We believe, first, that children are created in the image of God and have a lot of good things about them from the start. Second, children are sinners, and all of their goodness is affected by sin. Third, children do not show up already assembled; they are immature and must be "put together" by the parenting process.
These beliefs lead us to assert that everything a child does is not necessarily bad, or good, or immature. You have to discern which is which. Furthermore, you can't judge a behavior, in and of itself, out of context of character.
God created humankind to grow in self-control (Galatians 5:23). So it is important for you to play a role in your children's lives that will help them gain control of themselves and their own lives.
Freedom undergirds everything God has for people (Galatians 5:1) and this freedom is to be used responsibly in the service of love. Don't fear the freedom of your children, but require responsibility from them.
The Role of God.
Character is never complete without an understanding of who one is before God. Healthy people have the ability to see who God is, to love him, to obey him, and to take their proper role under him.
How will we teach our children in the ways of spiritual training and guidance?
The Process.
Parenting is a process... what you need to do as a parent will change every day. We will focus our time focusing on principles with process in mind, rather than chronological development.
Godspeed.
The three main points:
Love God and love others.
The Value of Truth.
Parents are dispensers of truth and reality sometimes through direct teaching, sometimes through discipline, and sometimes by getting out of the way and letting consequences do the instructing.
The Role of Character.
As a parent you need to be much more concerned about what kind of tree (good or bad) your child is becoming than about any particular fruit you might see on a single day.
An Understanding of Sin, Immaturity, and the Image of God.
We believe, first, that children are created in the image of God and have a lot of good things about them from the start. Second, children are sinners, and all of their goodness is affected by sin. Third, children do not show up already assembled; they are immature and must be "put together" by the parenting process.
These beliefs lead us to assert that everything a child does is not necessarily bad, or good, or immature. You have to discern which is which. Furthermore, you can't judge a behavior, in and of itself, out of context of character.
- Neediness vs. manipulation
- Image of God manifesting itself (good assertiveness) vs. disobedience (sinful rebellion)
- give what they need to immature children who are incomplete
- discipline children who rebel again truth, you, God, and structure
- nurture the very potential God build into them
God created humankind to grow in self-control (Galatians 5:23). So it is important for you to play a role in your children's lives that will help them gain control of themselves and their own lives.
Freedom undergirds everything God has for people (Galatians 5:1) and this freedom is to be used responsibly in the service of love. Don't fear the freedom of your children, but require responsibility from them.
The Role of God.
Character is never complete without an understanding of who one is before God. Healthy people have the ability to see who God is, to love him, to obey him, and to take their proper role under him.
How will we teach our children in the ways of spiritual training and guidance?
The Process.
Parenting is a process... what you need to do as a parent will change every day. We will focus our time focusing on principles with process in mind, rather than chronological development.
Godspeed.
The three main points:
- Balance the role of love with the need for limits.
- Value the worth of children without turning them into little gods.
- Children have much potential, but need a lot of both nurturing and correction to achieve that.
Monday, October 27, 2008
On Becoming Baby Wise
The best book I've ever purchased! Basically the schedule we go by for our children is eat, wake, sleep. This book takes that concept and explains it in detail. I thank God for the Ezzo's words of direction for our family schedule. I ordered the whole On Becoming... series from gfi.org for only $40. I love the easy read and simple to follow charts and summaries in each book.
- On Becoming Birthwise
- On Becoming Babywise (birth to 5 months)
- On Becoming Babywise II (5 months to 1 year)
- On Becoming Toddlerwise
- On Becoming Pottywise
- On Becoming Preschoolwise
- On Becoming Childwise
- On Becoming Preteenwise
- On Becoming Teenwise
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Baby Center
One of the first things I did when I found out we were pregnant was sign up with www.babycenter.com. I love getting weekly emails of how our baby is developing. They also have great articles for info on pregnancy, parenting, and child development. I enjoy the articles because most of them go right along with what my pediatrician says. I avoid most people's comments, because they tend to only be opinions.
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